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June 26, 2009

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June 26, 2009


My friend “Polly” decided to leave her boyfriend of 5+ years, move in with two gays in a place I’m told is called Bushwick, and try life on her own for the first time, ever.

In her words:

“This girl’s a fucking nutjob.” “Bipolar.” “That dude’s better off.” Yes, I can hear your interior monologue from Brooklyn (the acoustics off the bridge are ah-mazing). I get it. Respectable, sympathetic girls don’t do things like that to hot, supportive, amazing guys who love their crazy asses.

But staring down the barrel of marriage, it clicked: I’ve never been on my own. I always came home to parents or the live-in boyfriend, never walked into a party or social event without the bullet-proof vest of my partner layered over my party-gear and never learned to be the interesting, self-reliant woman with cool stories to tell.”

Is there a list of things you should do before you walk down the aisle? If you’re sure you’re not ready what’s the right move to make for a step back to re-boot? Will living in Brooklyn with gay men answer the age-old questions every almost married woman asks?

I don’t think I know. Polly’s sure she doesn’t know. But she intends to figure it out, and I intend to read about that. You should too — here.

8 comments

  1. I hope the guy she broke up with doesn’t read her blog. I’m sure even the most supportive boyfriend-almost-fiance would have trouble seeing all that as the rest of the world is seeing it.

  2. Much love to brilliant Jessie Rosen, a 20something pioneer, for plugging my humble adventures in not-knowingness.

    To KAC: KAC (PS, hey, it’s Polly) he designed THE HITCH LIST logo…bizarre, right?

    Turns out guys can relate to the “Hey, wait a minute…I think there’s stuff I need to do first” mentality too, and he’s made his OWN list. But more on that in the blog.

  3. You can’t learn to be an “interesting, self-reliant woman with cool stories to tell” with a significant other? I disagree. I don’t think you ever wake up one day and think “OK – NOW I’ve found myself, ready to get married!” It’s a lifelong process and, in my opinion, there can be just as much adventure in getting there as a team (although you def have to compromise more). But, I’m biased – I’m in the exact situation you were in and plan to stick around.

  4. I’m probably staring the obvious in the face, but where is the list? I read your blog posts (Polly), but am confused… maybe there is not list, and its up to the person to make it up on their own…

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