July 2008

People, like most produce and some dairy products, have a “best by” date. Not like, after a certain amount of time they go bad and should be discarded. Like, there’s a range of time within which they are each their best. But not “their best” like they become appropriately ripe and then that’s it. More like they each take a different amount of time to …

You know that now famous question that popped up somewhere around freshman year of high school? If you had to give up either blow jobs or cheese, which would you pick? Girls used it as a weird flirtation device — proof that they were cool enough to say blow job with a straight face. For guys I assume it was another piece of their sexual …

I would be an asshole to criticize without a counter point, and I try never to be an asshole. Today, my go at that Men’s Health article, re-titled for better clarity/ reality. You Should Try Not to Fuck it Up with Her If…Written from the perspective of a single, 20-something girl (Hypocrite and asshole are two very different things). You can leave her alone at …

In the recent tradition of the advice from the opposite, disqualified sex, comes a Men’s Health article outlining all the green flags that should tell you your girl is a keeper – a deal maker vs. deal breaker guide. It’s written by two, unmarried, 30-or-so women who claim that while, “women are notoriously bad at recognizing ‘The One’… we’re experts at knowing a good woman …

Awhile back I swallowed the collective pride of my group of girlfriends (and 3 of the guys) and created a match.com account. It was, at the time, all anyone was talking about (now it’s high-waisted pants). Everyone had a colleague or cousin or book club member who had tried Match and had a lot to say in the form of vague descriptions that all ended …

Today a much-needed departure from dating rules and the return of an old series (of one post). Absolute Truths. (Excerpt from old intro paragraph for reference): People talk about our social world being all grey area. That nothing is ever really black or white. That all things are open for interpretation. It could mean this, but it could, if you look at it from another …

Today – suggestions on what to communicate if you’ve decided you’re going to communicate. I’d say what to “say”, but there’s a one in never chance you’ll call and speak. Facebook Message in friend request (because I said you have to send a message with the friend request): Hey, nice meeting you at the bar/_____’s party/Whole Foods the other day/this weekend/last night. Subject-line of post …

Summer Friday! Heading to my parent’s house* for a 60th Birthday Celebration and a re-stock on the breakfast bars; they seem to have won some lifetime supply. In my stead here’s a recent column from The New York Time’s Sunday “Modern Love” series. It’s in line with my theory on dating process (or the lack there of) and even brings up the communications conumdrum. But …

Had to break it down by topic because there’s way too much to cover. Today: Rules to follow when initiating contact, delineated by communication medium. I feel they’re fairly accurate, but in fairness I once slipped my business card into a guy’s back pocket when he wasn’t looking as a method of initiating contact. It worked, but these remain open to discussion and criticism. Once …