March 2009

I wasn’t going to say anything, but Pierson said “Jessie, this is a teaching moment” and I (now) always listen to him because he said, “Jessie, you need to start a blog.” And so in a 20-Nothings first (and maybe last) I will challenge the several comments that suggest I was way too hard on the guy from this story. (I already regret this.) You’re …

Like I mentioned I’ve been assigned on article on the motivations behind people who gave up on hooking up. Over the past two weeks I’ve received responses from every kind of person — male, female, gay, straight, religious, atheist, city, suburban, and rural dweller all leading me to the following conclusion — people read my blog!!! THAT’S exciting!! And SCARY!! But to the point.  Lots of people …

Sos to bring this week’s improptu series on chivalry (thank you Steve Harvey) full circle — a short story: Two Friday’s ago I met a nice guy with nice stats (solid job, good education, really nice plaid button-down) out watching March Madness basketball (which, much like that Summer Olympics thing, presents a real opportunity…). We spent the evening talking and getting to know each other …

Required? dead? annoying?…apparently the answer is “confusing.” I thought yesterday’s post would insight online gender riot ala the infamous Mr. Anonymous #2 match of early 2009. Instead I just got a lot of gchats that read, “well what the hell am I supposed to do then?” Apparently part of the issue may actually be that we don’t know what chivalry looks like in World 2.0. …

I wish I could claim I said it but I didn’t – Steve Harvey did. Steve Harvey as in one of Spike Lee’s original Kings of Comedy (though it should be noted that he has a wildly successful men’s suit line…). Steve was on Oprah promoting his new book Act Like a Lady – Think Like a Man, which is a dating guide not a …

I recently overheard three women having a conversation about a guy one of them was dating. Apparently the guy had broken off an engagement – his engagement. I’m not fully clear on the details, but from what I could gather his fiance had done something wrong and he’d decided to leave her. “MMmm,” said one woman, “bad sign…” “I know, right?” said the girl dating …

“Friends”, Need some help from you and anyone you know for an article I’m writing.   Topic: people who gave up on hooking up.   For whatever reasons or motivations, they decided to stop any and all intimacy (the “go back to his/her place” variety) outside of legit dating.  meet random guy at bar — won’t go home with him.   Go on one date …

I secured my first boyfriend at the Fall 1996 Barkalow Middle School Valentine’s Day Dance. Tara Tanico had gotten a boyfriend a week earlier. Dena Kapalushnik had locked down my original prospect the day before, and so I decided waiting any longer would leave me without anyone to buy a 3×5” teddy bear from the P.T.O V-day sale (complete with one of five Print Shop …

Many people have inquired about the progress of my experience with match.com since I joined a few weeks ago. I don’t really want to tell you because it makes me feel awkward. Instead I’ve decided to vaguely share the details of the various men with whom I’ve corresponded (but then obv. discarded) through a paradoy of the hit AMC show Mad Men because re-writing television …

The other day I got a one-line gchat from someone very close to me: how do you ask someone to verify that they care about you? Almost hurts to read…a slap-you-obvious question you know you can’t answer – one along the lines of “can you ever really know a person?”, or “when is it time to walk away?” Those you hear often enough though– this …