April 2009

Yesterday’s to-marry-young-or-not convo sparked the expected comments and controversy. Some people were offended by the suggestion that independence and a focus on career from 20-28 (or so…) is a mistake. Others supported the argument that marrying young is not a joke or an indicator of future divorce — it’s just a decision of two people who love each other and are ready to commit to …

Warning: this may cause you to pit out. This Sunday’s Washington Post featured an article that challenged — among other things on the topic of marrying young — Gen X’s frequently held presumption that the earlier you marry, the less likely it will last. Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For? The writer’s thesis statement is simple: marrying young isn’t inherently wrong or inherently risky. …

Today — Pierson on this “do friends of the opposite sex have to go” issue and Brendan — someone I don’t technically know who felt compelled to comment on last week’s crazy girl conundrum. First: Can you have a boyfriend and keep your boy. friends.? The male response. Jessie and I were going to take sides and debate the merit of Rabbi whateverhisnameis’ point, but …

The Boston Globe article from Friday’s early edition post (read it before you read on) starts out innocently and logically enough: “There are rules for interacting and having platonic relationships with friends of the opposite sex once you’re married.” (For the purposes of today we’ll use “married” and “in a serious relationship” interchangeably.) The advice comes from Rabbi Shumley Boteach (not a typo) — the …

Late morning edition The male responder — Bill from Chicago — requested I put my original question below to better ground his response. My question: “We girls have developed a theory that, as much as men say they want a normal, well-adjusted woman, they secretly crave the drama of a crazy girl — crazy, of course, being open to interpretation. The way we sometimes see …

It was going to say She Posts, He Gets Fired from ever posting again, but that’s harsh, and it’s really nice outside today. Response to the “Do Guys Like Crazy Girls” question next week. Today — Friday reading courtesy of Pierson: MARRIED: with friends… Do you have to stop having friends of the opposite sex when you get into a series relationship? “This may seem …

We first explored both sides of the issue around whether a guy’s “not now” means “not ever.” (it means not ever).  Now for another in what, with this second posts, is now a series: do guys actually want a girl with  a certain degree of crazy? The questions comes to us from Laura, Kate and Eva of Chicago. In their words (that I’ve edited so they …

Thanks to all who helped with stories and info for my Marie Claire piece. The article is live! Giving Up on Hooking Up By Jessie Rosen Ask someone if they know anyone who’s given up on hooking up and they’ll say, “what do you mean?!” As a generation of 20-somethings (some in their teens and 30s…), we’ve come to famously mark the start of a …

You cannot discuss the topic of cheating with that age-old maxim entering the convo.  “Well…,” someone will say, “once a cheater, always a cheater,” to which everyone responds, “mmmm” which translates to,”I’m not sure I agree with that, but I don’t want to get into it.” Will someone who cheated once cheat again?  Behavioral scientists have been trying to figure it out since they decided …