April 2009

You find out via a bolded ghcat (you just go *bold* around the word) that _________ cheated on _________ aaand (insert element of story that makes it even more boldable): it’s been going on for a year/she doesn’t remember doing it/everyone from work saw it happen/it was with her best friend… What’s the first thing you do? Never date that person. It’s around the second …

Why people cheat is way too loaded a question.  They cheat because they’re stuck in a loveless marriage. They cheat because they got black-out drunk. They cheat because they’re looking for an excuse to get dumped. They cheat because they’re addicted to sex — all different reasons with different motivations prompting very different reactions in the victim. That “why” ends up having a lot to …

Cheating – much like being judgmental or looking fat in jeans – one of those things we can’t seem to self diagnose but see oh-so- easily in/on others.  Physical cheating, emotional cheating, cheating when you’re “on a break” – it’s all the same stuff. You have an established loyalty that you break by engaging with another person in a more than friendly manner. The problem …

As you should know — the Discovery Channel has this TV event they call Shark Week.  It’s a week of almost all shark programming, all the time, because people are fascinating with sharks and there are endless really clever ad campaigns you can come up with based on this idea.  After last week’s post encouraging audience participation I received very-close-to-a-number-that-rounds-up-to TEN emails regarding issues surrounding …

From time to time we meet a person that we connect with, but not in an instant, overtly, 8.2-minutes-and-we’re-in-love way. Every once in a while that person will follow up via one of the approved electronic devices and we’ll start a dialogue that we enjoy but don’t obsess over in that sorry-I-could-have-sworn-I-felt-my-blackberry-buzz way. And on occasion that person will harness up the chutzp to ask …

Over a year ago I wrote about a first date habit I couldn’t break: “I realized last night that I do a strange thing when I’m trying to get to know someone. I imagine them in all sorts of random life occurrences as if they’re some character in a series of young adult books: Andy Goes to the Beach, or Andy Takes a Road Trip, …

As promised – the original reaction to Friday’s post question from my friend Bill, a successful, 25-year-old, Chicago-based guy who is nothing like David Zinzenc-whatever. ————————————–There are certainly some very legitimate scenarios in which a guy might say this – stress at work, a recent relationship/break up, or really any other event or situation that might make it tough to put forth 100% effort. He …