Immediate next steps at the close of 2009

admin - December 23, 2009

I’m not what you’d call a here and now person. I’m what you’d call a here-and-now-and-six- months-from-now-and-two-years-from-those-six-months person…who pretends to be all here-and-now. I live in the moment I’m in – the whole presence is a present deal – but I plan for the moments way far down the road, chronically. This isn’t entirely problematic. It’s good to plan. It’s good to see the forest …

In defense of the “one of my best friend just got engaged” freak out

admin - December 21, 2009

One of my best friends got engaged last week. The actual moment was a surprise, but she’s been dating one of my best guy friends since we were seniors in college, so the marriage was inevitable – inevitable and wildly supported among the entire friend group. I could not be happier for this couple. They have an incredible relationship, and we’re all lucky to have …

Over being “adult about it”

admin - December 16, 2009

One of the most annoying things about being an adult is that you have to “be an adult about it” all the freaking time. When we were kids we were “just a kid.” We could throw temper tantrums and hit other kids and lie and cheat and steal and eat random candy and fall asleep wherever we wanted and ask people inappropriate questions and cry …

Kennedy and the Case of the Superior Set up

admin - December 14, 2009

“Hey! Jessie! I’m so pumped. I thought of a bunch of stories to tell you so I can finally make the blog!” Kennedy said to me 1.5 minutes after I arrived at dinner. He was 8-10 people down from me at a 10-12 person table positioned in a room so loud he had to yell it for me to hear. This did not stop him. …

When can you expect the call?

admin - December 11, 2009

Monday, 5:30pm B: im almost sure you’ve blogged on this – but if not, id love what ever thoughts you have B: see a guy in bar on sat — know him from HS/college — mostly just catching up chatter, some minimal flirting — he asks for my #when (if ever) should i expect a call?me: neverB: hahame: Ha. I’m kidding. Sort of. I only …

Regarding that “settling” article from The Atlantic, begrudgingly

admin - December 9, 2009

Over a year ago an article appeared in The Atlantic by a very brave woman named Lori Gottlieb around the very controversial topic of “settling.” Her advice – settle. Stop being picky. Realize good men aren’t easy to come by, and marry the one you’ve got so long as he’s good enough. Her words: “My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion …

2-year Blog Birthday and 20-Nothings the book

admin - December 7, 2009

Two years ago this blog was started as part creative outlet, part keep-friends-in-touch method, part (and really mostly) me appeasing Pierson who insisted I have a blog. Two years later this blog is a list of things I barely knew were options. It has been my introduction to professional writing and my segue to transitioning that writing from blogger.com to TV, film, and theater. It …

An open letter to anyone who knows anyone who’s about to end a relationship

admin - December 4, 2009

Dear everyone who falls within the above category and/or the actual people contemplating ending whatever you have going on with someone: First – really sorry to hear that and hope you slash this friend of yours learned something valuable from the relationship and well done for getting into one in the first place and etc. Second and more importantly – if you are a person …

A farewell to Facebook: one man’s war story

admin - December 3, 2009

As promised, below is the account of one man’s official and permanent exit from le book. My friend, the incomparable Stephane had his reasons for leaving (per the below), but those reasons didn’t end up being why he’s really glad he did. Random Person 020885: Hey, you’re really cool! Me: Thanks. You too! RP 020885: So what’s your last name? I’ll find you on Facebook… …

Who holds the courting game power? the guys or the girls?

admin - December 2, 2009

Spend more than a half hour talking to a guy about relationships and he’ll deal you the line they always deal when the convo turns to how impossible it is to get a girl: “you know, girls have all the power.” If you’re me you respond, “really…interesting…what makes you say that?” and then pull out the moleskin you keep in your clutch that’s purposefully big …

December 2009