Read This: How the pill changed the world

admin - November 30, 2010

This month marks the 50th Anniversary of the birth control pill- a fact that feels like remembering that when my Mom was in grammar school there were “white” and “colored” bathrooms. Only 50 years ago all that the pill changes about the way women and men behave, reproductively speaking, took effect. The effects, though, extended far beyond the way women and men behave when speaking …

Week 12 in L.A.: going home to New Jersey

admin - November 28, 2010

This post was supposed to be about how weird it is to come home for the first time after you’ve moved clear across the country. I was going to start with my various anxieties around all the awkward things that were sure to happen: I’d have to sleep on the trundle bed in my sister’s room and we’d fight about when to turn the reading …

A cut-and-paste e-mail for the drinks set-up situation

admin - November 24, 2010

Sometimes it’s still the simplest steps that stress us out the most. I recently received an e-mail from a blog-reader recounting her g-chat with a male friend – that is if you can call one person questioning, deleting, and re-writing every sentence of a five sentence e-mail and the other person responding, “JUST SEND IT,” in every possible form. The e-mail in question was of …

Surviving my first mini-trip as a couple

admin - November 22, 2010

Now seems like as bad a time as any to expose the fact that I’m a fraud. For the past three years I’ve written a blog focused in large part on dating and relationships while remaining pretty much single and very much inexperienced in the realm of life as a couple. Up until three weeks ago I hadn’t dated someone long enough to “meet” the …

The things-you-should-know-about round up

admin - November 19, 2010

Every once in awhile I like to provide a little summary of the brilliant, terrifying, hysterical and/or fascinating things I’ve recently found across the world wide web. In editorial speak this is what’s called a “listicle” – as in an article in the format of a list. Yes, I agree that the combination of those two words is ridiculous. Unfortunately, that doesn’t stop me from …

I Skype-met the parents. Yes, you read that correctly.

admin - November 18, 2010

You (should) know you’re in trouble when your editor says, “Wow Jessie, you’re a really brave girl…” I’m not sure if “brave” is the correct word, but I wrote the following piece none-the-less. The subject-matter should be pretty clear from the title. The reasons why I thought this was a good idea…still fuzzy. I Skype-met the Parents “It’s important at this point to mention that …

Week 10 in LA: The dining/drinking difference between New York and LA

admin - November 17, 2010

This one might get me in trouble… I’ve been in LA for either 9 or 10 weeks (depending on how subtraction works) and remain in constant assessment of the differences between this town and my former. There’s no shortage of differences. From the work culture (again, stay tuned) and attire (all things are far more casual here) to the hours people keep (it’s more like …

Follow-up: how to tell your friend she’s a chameleon dater

admin - November 15, 2010

Someone sent me a very smart follow-up query following last week’s past about chameleon daters. Forget about whether or not you, yourself are a chameleon dater. What do you do if your friend is downright chronic? How do you make her realize the ridiculousness slash wrongs of her ways? Good question. Tricky answer. I think the best method is to orchestrate a very carefully constructed …

Why some girls are afraid to make it official

admin - November 12, 2010

–> Most girls live for the so-do-you-think-we-should-we-be-exclusive? conversation. They bite their tongues on the issue from the moment they’re sure he’s a contender to the moment they finally break down and ask. Most girls are dying to say, “this is my boyfriend __________” or “my boyfriend and I were at ____________” or “ugh, do you know what my boyfriend is making me do this weekend??” …

Chameleon daters: who they are, and how to tell if they are you

admin - November 10, 2010

“It’s like she becomes whoever it is she’s dating,” C said over one, plate-sized ricotta-stuffed ravioli with a fried egg on top (trust me – it’s perfection). “Like a chameleon,” R said, probably because chameleons are lizards and lizards are like dinosaurs and dinosaurs are second only to trucks in coolness to a boy, I’m told. “Hmmm, chameleon daters…” I said, “…there’s a blog post …

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