As promised – the original reaction to Friday’s post question from my friend Bill, a successful, 25-year-old, Chicago-based guy who is nothing like David Zinzenc-whatever. ————————————–There are certainly some very legitimate scenarios in which a guy might say this – stress at work, a recent relationship/break up, or really any other event or situation that might make it tough to put forth 100% effort. He …

Something new. As we learned this week I am one woman (girl really) with one perspective. Moving forward I’ll be tapping several male friends for their 500-word perspective on a given controversial dating issue. One day I’ll post my perspective. The next day I’ll post their perspective. I promise they haven’t read mine, and I won’t have read their’s. I feel this (could be) good …

“So we’d been talking for awhile – you know talking like I think he’s getting me and I’m getting him,” my friend Kim is saying to me over the best Thai meal under $20 this city has to offer, “and then he looks at me and says, ‘you know, you’d be a lot prettier if you weren’t so witty.” I have a lot of trouble …

I wasn’t going to say anything, but Pierson said “Jessie, this is a teaching moment” and I (now) always listen to him because he said, “Jessie, you need to start a blog.” And so in a 20-Nothings first (and maybe last) I will challenge the several comments that suggest I was way too hard on the guy from this story. (I already regret this.) You’re …

Like I mentioned I’ve been assigned on article on the motivations behind people who gave up on hooking up. Over the past two weeks I’ve received responses from every kind of person — male, female, gay, straight, religious, atheist, city, suburban, and rural dweller all leading me to the following conclusion — people read my blog!!! THAT’S exciting!! And SCARY!! But to the point.  Lots of people …

Sos to bring this week’s improptu series on chivalry (thank you Steve Harvey) full circle — a short story: Two Friday’s ago I met a nice guy with nice stats (solid job, good education, really nice plaid button-down) out watching March Madness basketball (which, much like that Summer Olympics thing, presents a real opportunity…). We spent the evening talking and getting to know each other …

Required? dead? annoying?…apparently the answer is “confusing.” I thought yesterday’s post would insight online gender riot ala the infamous Mr. Anonymous #2 match of early 2009. Instead I just got a lot of gchats that read, “well what the hell am I supposed to do then?” Apparently part of the issue may actually be that we don’t know what chivalry looks like in World 2.0. …

I wish I could claim I said it but I didn’t – Steve Harvey did. Steve Harvey as in one of Spike Lee’s original Kings of Comedy (though it should be noted that he has a wildly successful men’s suit line…). Steve was on Oprah promoting his new book Act Like a Lady – Think Like a Man, which is a dating guide not a …

I recently overheard three women having a conversation about a guy one of them was dating. Apparently the guy had broken off an engagement – his engagement. I’m not fully clear on the details, but from what I could gather his fiance had done something wrong and he’d decided to leave her. “MMmm,” said one woman, “bad sign…” “I know, right?” said the girl dating …

“Friends”, Need some help from you and anyone you know for an article I’m writing.   Topic: people who gave up on hooking up.   For whatever reasons or motivations, they decided to stop any and all intimacy (the “go back to his/her place” variety) outside of legit dating.  meet random guy at bar — won’t go home with him.   Go on one date …