My friend Erica is kicking it into high gear in ’09 — making it to the gym, eating healthy, yadda yadda. Unfortunately she – like the 99.9% of Americans who drink and have access to pizza, Chinese food, or in my case Sam’s Falafel (extra hummus) – has a bad drunk-eating habit. To makes matters worse, she lives in an epicenter of drunk eating. Within …

Right before the holiday I found myself torn over the details surrounding some too-be-scheduled drinks….with a guy (in case you’re new to this blog). The date was of the blind variety, though in my opinion there’s no longer such thing as a blind date on account of the Internet and expert stalkers like my friend John. For the purposes of this discussion – I knew-ish …

I’ve come up with a solution to help us figure out why we strike out when meeting (some) people. It’s a system loosely based on Christian Confession. For yee of other faiths, that’s when we go into a small room where a priest sits behind a screen and tell him the things we think we’ve done wrong and are willing to admit. Then he gives …

*I was assigned the below essay by The Nest – a magazine for newlyweds from the creators of the weddings website, The Knot. Original assignment: write a letter to the new wife of my male best friend expressing my feelings about their marriage and waiving the white flag so we can move on as friends. The editor’s reaction to this first draft: “reads a bit …

I’ll keep this brief – for a change. I did end up meeting Laundro-Matt for a drink before the holidays. We had a nice time. He seemed like (and may very well be) a nice guy – potentially but not definitively “nicest guy.” Unfortunately he appears to possess a few qualities that rank high on my alphabetic list of dealbreakers – most notably in the …

I was recently given a freelance writing assignment that required me to visited dozens of Manhattan locations in search of men — so essentially what I do always except now I had an excuse to admit it and would ultimately get paid. The kinds of places I visited included typical places where I’ve come across eligible men (bars, hot dog stands, other bars) and more …

I think slowly but surely we all realize we’re not going to end up with any of our maybe-people. Heavy for a Monday morning, but here’s how I see it. As modern adults we exist in large, co-ed friends groups. Within those friend groups are people you have slash would hook up with and those you haven’t and would never. Of that set is the …

Take one female friend’s recent discovery regarding a guy she’d seen more than a few times. Said guy doesn’t live where my friend lives. On the occasions that they’ve gotten together she’s either gone to or happened-to-be-in his area or he has traveled to hers. They remain, for the most part, in occasionally regular contact. A week or two may go by in which they …

I watched Love Actually with my family over the holiday break. I’m sure you did too. It’s reached official holiday status. I enjoy Love Actually for the same reasons most people do. It gives you hope in the possibility of unbelievable love stories, and it features Hugh Grant. But every time I watch it I get caught up on one scene that, hard as a …