Love

I’ve almost written this post a dozen times but never gone through with it because it’s bound to piss people off – people I know. But to go 2.5 years of dating and relationship topics and not cover what pisses single people off about couples is avoiding the elephant in the blog. Whether it’s those first signs of coupledom – the excessive “we”-ing or 180 …

Anonymous commenter number two makes a valid point: “Here’s a suggestion: why don’t you actually read the book before you judge it? You’re basing your entire argument off of a 2 year old, 5 page article and a controversial book title. Perhaps when you read it, you’ll feel the same way, but maybe you’ll actually see that there’s wisdom in Gottlieb’s book. How about it?” …

First there was that infamous Lori Gottlieb settling article from The Atlantic about how biting the bullet and saying yes to Mr. Not-entirely-Right was a girl’s better option than holding out. Then there were the million and one oh-no-you-didn’t responses from the how-dare-you- suggest-that-forced-love-is-better-than-true-love set – aanndd one from me that sort of went, “how ’bout we take a walk around the block and come …

Every once in awhile I hear/read something about the dating world that makes me go “wait, what? shit…” Like when I found out from Chris that an astounding number of people don’t count sex halvsies. Or when Patti Stanger said almost all guys prefer girls with straight hair. The latest came via the tweet of a friend whose name I didn’t have time to ask …

You want a boyfriend (or girlfriend – just switch all the pronouns) because they’re cute/hot men who kiss you both whenever you ask them and also by surprise. You want one because it’s really fun to go to dinner with someone you’ll wear something special for and can flirt with from start to finish without knowing if they’re just in it for the maybe sex. …

You probably think Travis Dillinger is an asshole…or a player…or an alcoholic in denial…or actually named Travis Dillinger. If you start to read the case files of his 100 Girls in 100 Days project (and don’t stop, like I didn’t…), you will without a doubt form an opinion or ten about Travis Dillinger. He likes girls with good taste in music. His success at meeting …

So on this issue of why, if we know what we want, don’t we just make that clear so we can get it? (note: maybe best to read Monday’s deal about the Five Love Languages, how getting them is what we want but telling people we want them is something we don’t get…) First – this is more a female than male thing – in …

note: please trust that I won’t make reading and/or reviewing self-help books a habit. Especially ones with beach scenes on their cover…their purple cover… Like I mentioned – my sister Dani-the-wise recommended a psychology-based, self-help-ish book over the holiday break. “Recommended” is used here to cut to the chase about how I got this book. What really happened is 1,000+ comments on behalf of Dani …

I read a book over the break called The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition. (cynical eyes) I know… I generally steer clear of all books featuring the oh-so-motivational “colon: singles edition” – but this one came recommended by my sister Dani who is the smartest person I know between the ages of 21-25 (I have a 20-year-old sister too). More on those Five Love Languages …

One of my best friends got engaged last week. The actual moment was a surprise, but she’s been dating one of my best guy friends since we were seniors in college, so the marriage was inevitable – inevitable and wildly supported among the entire friend group. I could not be happier for this couple. They have an incredible relationship, and we’re all lucky to have …