Love

“Hey! Jessie! I’m so pumped. I thought of a bunch of stories to tell you so I can finally make the blog!” Kennedy said to me 1.5 minutes after I arrived at dinner. He was 8-10 people down from me at a 10-12 person table positioned in a room so loud he had to yell it for me to hear. This did not stop him. …

Monday, 5:30pm B: im almost sure you’ve blogged on this – but if not, id love what ever thoughts you have B: see a guy in bar on sat — know him from HS/college — mostly just catching up chatter, some minimal flirting — he asks for my #when (if ever) should i expect a call?me: neverB: hahame: Ha. I’m kidding. Sort of. I only …

Over a year ago an article appeared in The Atlantic by a very brave woman named Lori Gottlieb around the very controversial topic of “settling.” Her advice – settle. Stop being picky. Realize good men aren’t easy to come by, and marry the one you’ve got so long as he’s good enough. Her words: “My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion …

Dear everyone who falls within the above category and/or the actual people contemplating ending whatever you have going on with someone: First – really sorry to hear that and hope you slash this friend of yours learned something valuable from the relationship and well done for getting into one in the first place and etc. Second and more importantly – if you are a person …

Spend more than a half hour talking to a guy about relationships and he’ll deal you the line they always deal when the convo turns to how impossible it is to get a girl: “you know, girls have all the power.” If you’re me you respond, “really…interesting…what makes you say that?” and then pull out the moleskin you keep in your clutch that’s purposefully big …

Today another hot-and-bothersome topic from Meg over at Blackberries to Apples.  As I was putting the finishing touches on my blogger play recently – my very first play, so exciting – I received the following e-mail from my most recent ex.“I’m really sorry. There’s not really any good way for me to say this, but I think I need to de-tag the pictures of us …

Jeff and I were talking about how weird slash hard it is to date while you’re in medical school.  “To date” here being defined as “to find people to date, go on said dates, and make plans for additional dates following.” And “when you’re in medical school” meaning, when you’re Jeff. I would think that medical school, business school, really any kind of higher education …

A recent gchat between my often wiser younger sister and I uncovered an interesting psychological fact about most people that can be applied to our understand of the male/female dating situation: people are lazy, almost always.  Read on.   Dani: i’m responding to your blogtrying to think of something funny it’s an interesting idea Jessie: the calling thing?or the approaching it backwards thing? Dani: yeahto …

Last Wednesday, 2:30pm, ghat: Chris: question for you well statement and id like your reaction me: ok Chris: “i think the young culture has gotten to a point where calling has become chivalrous” me: agree firmly Chris: kind of awful me: really, really awful but really true Chris: has calling become a turn-off? me: no I think it’s become an easy way to really show …

Breaking from the New York mag anxieties series for a shift – to another kind of anxiety.  Times are tough. Here’s a common relational riddle: You meet someone out at a bar or party.  They approach you.  Their approach has that confusing are-they-or-are-they-not-interested tenor.  You play it right on the edge of well-if-they’re-interested-then-I’m-interested-too… Time passes.  Unclear flirting continues.  Confusion abounds.  Then as the night is …