Love

The Boston Globe article from Friday’s early edition post (read it before you read on) starts out innocently and logically enough: “There are rules for interacting and having platonic relationships with friends of the opposite sex once you’re married.” (For the purposes of today we’ll use “married” and “in a serious relationship” interchangeably.) The advice comes from Rabbi Shumley Boteach (not a typo) — the …

Late morning edition The male responder — Bill from Chicago — requested I put my original question below to better ground his response. My question: “We girls have developed a theory that, as much as men say they want a normal, well-adjusted woman, they secretly crave the drama of a crazy girl — crazy, of course, being open to interpretation. The way we sometimes see …

It was going to say She Posts, He Gets Fired from ever posting again, but that’s harsh, and it’s really nice outside today. Response to the “Do Guys Like Crazy Girls” question next week. Today — Friday reading courtesy of Pierson: MARRIED: with friends… Do you have to stop having friends of the opposite sex when you get into a series relationship? “This may seem …

We first explored both sides of the issue around whether a guy’s “not now” means “not ever.” (it means not ever).  Now for another in what, with this second posts, is now a series: do guys actually want a girl with  a certain degree of crazy? The questions comes to us from Laura, Kate and Eva of Chicago. In their words (that I’ve edited so they …

Thanks to all who helped with stories and info for my Marie Claire piece. The article is live! Giving Up on Hooking Up By Jessie Rosen Ask someone if they know anyone who’s given up on hooking up and they’ll say, “what do you mean?!” As a generation of 20-somethings (some in their teens and 30s…), we’ve come to famously mark the start of a …

You cannot discuss the topic of cheating with that age-old maxim entering the convo.  “Well…,” someone will say, “once a cheater, always a cheater,” to which everyone responds, “mmmm” which translates to,”I’m not sure I agree with that, but I don’t want to get into it.” Will someone who cheated once cheat again?  Behavioral scientists have been trying to figure it out since they decided …

You find out via a bolded ghcat (you just go *bold* around the word) that _________ cheated on _________ aaand (insert element of story that makes it even more boldable): it’s been going on for a year/she doesn’t remember doing it/everyone from work saw it happen/it was with her best friend… What’s the first thing you do? Never date that person. It’s around the second …

Why people cheat is way too loaded a question.  They cheat because they’re stuck in a loveless marriage. They cheat because they got black-out drunk. They cheat because they’re looking for an excuse to get dumped. They cheat because they’re addicted to sex — all different reasons with different motivations prompting very different reactions in the victim. That “why” ends up having a lot to …

Cheating – much like being judgmental or looking fat in jeans – one of those things we can’t seem to self diagnose but see oh-so- easily in/on others.  Physical cheating, emotional cheating, cheating when you’re “on a break” – it’s all the same stuff. You have an established loyalty that you break by engaging with another person in a more than friendly manner. The problem …

As you should know — the Discovery Channel has this TV event they call Shark Week.  It’s a week of almost all shark programming, all the time, because people are fascinating with sharks and there are endless really clever ad campaigns you can come up with based on this idea.  After last week’s post encouraging audience participation I received very-close-to-a-number-that-rounds-up-to TEN emails regarding issues surrounding …