Love

I’ve come up with a solution to help us figure out why we strike out when meeting (some) people. It’s a system loosely based on Christian Confession. For yee of other faiths, that’s when we go into a small room where a priest sits behind a screen and tell him the things we think we’ve done wrong and are willing to admit. Then he gives …

*I was assigned the below essay by The Nest – a magazine for newlyweds from the creators of the weddings website, The Knot. Original assignment: write a letter to the new wife of my male best friend expressing my feelings about their marriage and waiving the white flag so we can move on as friends. The editor’s reaction to this first draft: “reads a bit …

I’ll keep this brief – for a change. I did end up meeting Laundro-Matt for a drink before the holidays. We had a nice time. He seemed like (and may very well be) a nice guy – potentially but not definitively “nicest guy.” Unfortunately he appears to possess a few qualities that rank high on my alphabetic list of dealbreakers – most notably in the …

I was recently given a freelance writing assignment that required me to visited dozens of Manhattan locations in search of men — so essentially what I do always except now I had an excuse to admit it and would ultimately get paid. The kinds of places I visited included typical places where I’ve come across eligible men (bars, hot dog stands, other bars) and more …

I think slowly but surely we all realize we’re not going to end up with any of our maybe-people. Heavy for a Monday morning, but here’s how I see it. As modern adults we exist in large, co-ed friends groups. Within those friend groups are people you have slash would hook up with and those you haven’t and would never. Of that set is the …

Take one female friend’s recent discovery regarding a guy she’d seen more than a few times. Said guy doesn’t live where my friend lives. On the occasions that they’ve gotten together she’s either gone to or happened-to-be-in his area or he has traveled to hers. They remain, for the most part, in occasionally regular contact. A week or two may go by in which they …

I watched Love Actually with my family over the holiday break. I’m sure you did too. It’s reached official holiday status. I enjoy Love Actually for the same reasons most people do. It gives you hope in the possibility of unbelievable love stories, and it features Hugh Grant. But every time I watch it I get caught up on one scene that, hard as a …

Katie, Abby and I go out last Thursday for a series of drinks. Our plan is to go to Rolf’s, the famous German bar/restaurant in Gramercy that’s become as popular a holiday stop as the Rock Center tree. It’s decorated to feel like you’re standing inside a Christmas tree — wall to wall garland, millions of sparkly lights. Ornaments everywhere. Essentially my wonderland. Unfortunately Rolf’s …

More on the reign of the hook up. Like the date – in order to understand why everyone is hooking up these days we should probably take a look at why one person does. What motivates a person to hook up? Some friends and I discussed electronically. With their feedback – and consideration of all the rationale and over-analysis and alcohol – I think it …

It is rare that people (who are sober) do things without some rationale or motivation. And sober rationale comes in two, basic forms: need-based (like food) and want-based (like shoes). So logic holds that if we figure out what needs and wants motivate people to go on dates that we can figure out where said needs are being met and wants being squelched thus un-inspiring …