Maureen Downes is never quite my flavor, but this recent column raises some interesting issues around the age old question of what makes a man marriage material.
Commentary later on.
“Hollywood says you can be deeply in love with someone and then your marriage will work,” the twinkly eyed, white-haired priest says. “But you can be deeply in love with someone to whom you cannot be successfully married.”
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Yes, all those qualities that are listed in that article are fantastic. However, he forgot one thing – how ’bout someone you genuinely like and care about and want to be around? I think a lot of young people today have distorted views on what love and marriage are supposed to be. It’s not all about fireworks and a perfect mate. (Not being married myself, perhaps I am the one with the distorted view, though). Looking at my parents, clearly neither of them are perfect human-beings, but they have been happily married for almost 30 years. They’ve been through fights – my mom is incredibly stubborn and likes to yell about every little thing and my father is the strong silent type – but these are few and far between and they always work it out. After reading the article and comparing it to real life couples, I think the article is a little unrealistic. Yes, every girl wants the perfect guy – the guy who is sensitive, but strong; who has a large network of friends, but chooses to spend time with her instead; who has a sense of humor, but isn’t crude; etc. But, the most important thing, I think, is to find someone who you love and who can be your best friend and who wants to make it work just as much as you do. The rest is just gravy.
To her credit, I think the article is really about who you shouldn’t marry, not who you should. Obviously it has to come down to who you are compatible with, but I guess this priest is just trying to point out some caution signs that most people aren’t honest enough to tell you about.