The following is a real, unedited gchat conversation between 27-year-old-male and female friends around this issue of sex numbers — and some other fascinating stuff. Names have been changed for protection slash humor — and I also cut out a section where “Olivier” talks about “how many mexicans he has under his belt.” You don’t even want to know.

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• Bianca: OMG did you get an email from jessie about # of sex partner
• Olivier: yeah but i forgot to respond
• Bianca: if you liked a girl – and she had slept with 50 dudes – what would you think of that
• Olivier: i would think…seeeee ya later – id stop liking her – what would u think abouta guy with 50?
• Bianca: eh, probs think he was kind of dirty – idk – if someone tells you 50, and thinks there’s nothing wrong with that….I mean, come on! be smart enough to lie to me – hahahaha
• Olivier: hahaa – it’s different though
• Bianca: because someone could have only 2 – who happen to be like best friends – or sisters – or something – that’s dirtier
• Olivier: hahaha yes – regardless of anything, there’s a gender difference here – the age old double standard — and like it or not, it still holds true. So what im getting at is this. If a guy fucks 50 girls, it’s like he succeeded — if a girl does the same, it’s like she failed…your’e probably gonna react sharply to that
• Bianca: do you agree wtih that yourself? do you TRULY admire a dude who’s slept with tons and tons of girls?!
• Olivier: not in those black and white terms — but i definitely think about both cases differently. No, i wouldnt say i admire or even aspire to that, but how about this – would you say that if you liked a guy who was a virgin? or slept with only 1 girl – -would that…umm let’s use the phrase “turn you off” at least slightly?
• Bianca: ummm not a turn off – but it wouldn’t get me all pumped to sleep with them – hahahahha – I think guys wouldn’t mind that as much
• Olivier: right, basically the lower # a girl has, the better
• Bianca: it depends
• Olivier: the virgin thing is debatable
• Bianca: a virgin -yikes
• Olivier: the virgin thing is a lifelong debate with valid points on both sides
• Bianca: one girl – a long relationship? could be amazing – it’s all just case by case
• Olivier: personally, at this point i wouldnt want a virgin
• Bianca: there’d be a LOT of pressure
• Olivier: but above zero, the lower the better
• Bianca: like, I think I’m more attracted to more laid-back people
• Olivier: and i think i speak for at the very least 99% of all Pierren
• Bianca: I think people’s numbers should be based on the last 5 years
• Olivier: so if a guy has a low number — a too-low number — that can be undesirable or not great
• Bianca: no no
• Olivier: no? i thought u said yes, in certain terms
• Bianca: well – I guess it depends on the terms, yes — I don’t feel like teaching someone how to do it
• Olivier: right
• Bianca: even tho most guys require that anyway – no offense
• Olivier: but what about the idea that there might be something wrong with him if his # is too low – like, he wasn’t able to get more than 2 girls to sleep with him?? why am i sleeping with him?
• Bianca: I wouldn’t think soPierrething’s wrong with HIM, but his skills might not be so hot
• Olivier: that thought process doesnt happen?
• Bianca: nah
• Olivier: hmm – interesting
• Bianca: because a dude who’s slept with 100s of girls probably just picked up dog
• Olivier: probably, but what about a guy with 15? – vs. a guy with 2-3
• Bianca: I don’t know
• Olivier: case by case
• Bianca: I can’t answer hypothetical’s — I don’t think rationally if I like someone
• Olivier: fair- hahahaha
• Bianca: I like them – and chances are – I won’t like the type of guy who’s banged out everyone on the planet – but the diff between 3 and 15 — eh? Also – I fully expect that everybody lies
• Olivier: ok, this is another topic
• Bianca: I mean maybe not, I just automatically assume people aren’t being honest
• Olivier: girls deflate, guys inflate?
• Bianca: about their past — yeah, probably — or not – OMG – I just think it’s a pointless topic of discussion!! even though we discussed it the other night — it’s futile – OMG I have like a million questions about hte male race
• Olivier: hahahaha
• Bianca: well here’s one – if a girl sleeps over – do you expect she’s going to sleep with you?
• Olivier: no
• Bianca: see you’re a bad example because I feel like you’re actually a stand-up guy
• Olivier: well
• Bianca: I want to talk to some dirty asshole who will make me mad!
• Olivier: i dont expect it…but im still disappointed if it doesnt happen – and it also depends on the events up until then
• Bianca: haha but aren’t you disappointed if it doesn’t happen – like – you always want the end result to be sex – because you’re a boy
• Olivier: aaah – well yeah but there’s a realistic chance of it happening if she’s sleeping over
• Bianca: what if you like soPierreone and she gives it up right off the bat – turn off? – I say yes
• Olivier: if I like her, yeah – as in – if I like who she is – more than physical – if it’s just physical – then no, not a turn off
• Bianca: right – like if you would consider dating her – but then she sleeps with you, deal’s off?
• Olivier: i wouldnt rule it out…no, not a dealbreaker – just not ideal – and I’d investigate further
• Bianca: hahahaha – talk about a double standard
• Olivier: yeah – that’s a tough one for girls, i admit
• Bianca: see, but I think girls agree with that – like if I like a guy I’m not going to sleep with him – and I know plenty of girls who would want to – but hold out for the very reason they know it’ll be a turn-off
• Olivier: yeah, sure – but if he likes you back, then he’ll like you more — and it’ll eventually happen — if u both like each other
• Bianca: exactly – well it’s kind of true what your mom always tells you — like don’t give up the cow thing
• Olivier: if he doesnt like u back, then hes prob still going to try to sleep with you anyway, at least one more shot, and then maybe youll sleep with him — so worst case, u end up having sex either way – wait — the cow thing?? – what’s that?
• Bianca: he won’t buy the cow if he can get the milk for free
• Olivier: hahahahhaahhhhahahahahahhaa — wow