I’m always torn when things like this pop up. “Things like this” being the sex diary of a former Duke student that went viral early this week.
On the one hand I want to say, “who cares?” or “that’s interesting” or “wow guys really have terrible grammar when sexting” but then on the other I think, “this is an example of really immature behavior that’s now being called female self-empowerment.'”
This time I gathered my thoughts on the subject for Lemondrop.com – Aol’s women’s lifestyle site. Give a read and feel free to add your own opinion in comments or e-mails before this story’s 15 minutes are up (I’m guessing by next Wednesday, latest).
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Hello Jessie, My Name is Den. I am a Father of Twins that will soon enough be in college .
I could not agree with you more on your Blog / Point of View . I am ashamed of a great many choices in my life like any well adjusted person , I deal with it and I move ON . Something I hope this Young woman from Duke may learn to do before she is Stricken with an STD that a pill will not Cure . Or worse yet she brings a child into this world without learning her lesson and passing it on, generating a vicious cycle thats been perpetuated for generations but only now is more “OPENLY” Accepted .
I was Sleeping with any “hot chick ” that gave me the time of Day, But I was usually smart enough to use protection . On the Occaisions I have not I was in committed relationships ( though I dont think the 3 Women thought the same way)
I was Lucky , many men and women never learn the lessons life has to offer and end up just churning out another Generation of the same. I try and teach my kids that I was Mistaken in my actions and thought processes , and hope I can get them to abstain or atleast use protection and finish thier education . I do not know if I will be successful but I will try harder everyday So my kids do not make my choices , But I will Still Love them if they do.
Absolutely wonderful article. Well said, on all fronts.
really good article.
Jessie – It’s a pleasure to find that someone in the alleged 3rd Wave generation has a clear understanding of what feminism is really about. Congratulations on your Lemondrop commentary on media treatment of Karen Owens’s sex diary.
The best take on this bullshit I have seen yet, and the only one I actually managed to finish.
It’s easy to say that a spouse should learn to forgive and forget the history of their loved one prior to their history together but that’s not how it works in real life. My wife led a life very similar to Ms. Owen’s during her first three years of college. To know her now you’d never quess that she was capable of such irresponsible behavior. Knowing your spouse has a history such as this is a recipe for a life of hurt and pain in an otherwise loving relationship. I know because I’ve been living it for 34 years! The strength of the sexual bond in marriage between a man a woman begins at puberty…not after the “I do’s” despite what society would have us believe. I hope for Ms. Owens sake that she marries a man that knows nothing of her sexual past and that he never learns the details of it. Otherwise she is likely to be another statistic in the long list of failed relationships.