First and foremost I hope this post finds you healthy and safely indoors. These are – I can’t even find the right word to describe them – times, and the better we all stay safely quarantined, the sooner they’ll be behind us all. I’m writing from Los Angeles where my husband, dog and I have been (mostly) indoors since Thursday, March 12th. That’s 14, 75 …
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Last night my friend Amy turned to me during a boys-behaving-badly scene in a movie we were watching and said, “I hate all men.” And I said, “I hate all men, too.” And then, under my breath, I said the very next thing that popped into my mind: But not my husband. My husband is a wonderful man in a very real and non gender specific …
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Two things have been incredibly difficult for me to resolve in my mind around the sexual assault revelations of the past few months. The first is statements like this: It’s just tough because you think of the impact that The Cosby Show had on black America at the time and forever after. You know Louie C.K. put Tig Notaro on the map. We wouldn’t have …
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Like many/most/hopefully all people, I am blown away by the recent takedown of prominent and serial sexual assaulters in this country. It started with Harvey Weinstein but already fashion photographer Terry Richardson has been banned by brands Valentino, Bulgari and publisher Vogue Conde Nast, an LA Times article outed Bugsy writer James Toback (more than 200 accusers), and Amazon Studios executive Roy Price resigned following sexual harassment allegations. Now articles …
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Sometime in the spring of my freshman year of high school I sat down with the big glossary of musical terms that we kept in the living room and started the search for the perfect AOL AIM screen name. [Was it called a screen name? Hey, what’s your screen name? Or. Hey, what’s your IM name? That sounds more like it, but I can’t 100% …
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Last month R and I moved to what you might call suburbia. I wouldn’t call it that because I am a city snob. I said things like, “I don’t know…it just looks too much like a family would live here…” as we searched for our first home. But it turns out our perfect first house was on a quiet street, in a quiet enclave of …
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Today I woke up really mad about this whole stealthing situation. Have you heard about this? It’s when men take their condom off mid-sex without telling their sex partner, and it’s a trend. Today. In 2017. It made me mad about Roger Ailes and the men like him all over again. Reminder: he died last week. It was a busy one, so I don’t blame …
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Last week (I think? in #TrumpsAmerica the weeks are like decades) Blake Lively stood up to a reporter that asked what she was wearing on a red carpet. She said some combo of: “I’m here so we … become more aware, and that we change, and that we build women up….So, you can ask me another question.” and “Are we really doing this? Would you ask …
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In light of the fact that American Democracy is crumbling before our very eyes at the hands of an unqualified megalomaniac who has, in a mere refuse-to-count-them weeks in office, made life more miserable for trans people, immigrants, refugees, and journalists (to name the mere obvious) – pretty stable, probably white Americans can no longer complain, about anything. To be clear, I’m not complaining about …
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This Sunday’s New York Times features an op ed about the women’s march movement. The title: Since When Is Being a Woman a Liberal Cause? The first line of the piece is a fascinating question: who gets to define what it means to be pro-women? I don’t know the official answer but right now a group of women is making a play for …
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