Directly from the New York mag article: “the back burner is a game, and while the [sex] Diarists have various ideas about what constitutes winning they all agree on how you lose: by betraying a level of emotional enthusiasm unmatched by the other party.” In other words – everyone wants the upper hand in the relationship – to be able to say, “she likes me …

Today’s exploration: New Yorker’s anxieties around too much choice and making the wrong choice. There’s this crazy stat that if you ate at a different restaurant within the five boroughs of New York for three meals a day, every single day it would take you four or five years to every single one. Here we don’t have certain stores where you can get diamonds, we …

I’d been planning a series on the cornerstone problems/hang ups/issues of modern dating, but then New York Magazine got to it first, so I’ll just go off theirs. A Critical (But Highly Sympathetic) Reading of New Yorkers’ Sexual Habits & Anxieties Their piece was born out of the Sex Diaries that have become a staple of the nymag.com Daily Intel site. Each week a different, …

I received the following email from the O&O Meg of Blackberries to Apples sometime on Sunday afternoon. ——————————————- So, here’s a question. Why do women spend so much time and money trying to dissect the dating world, all the while this convenient Date Ball was hiding at my local Harlem dollar store?!?! Allegedly it will tell me when he will call, if he likes me, …

The follow-up from Monday’s story about Pumpkin and her less than ideal man, maybe. It may have been serendipitous that I named Pumpkin as such – a complicated fruit (vegetable?) to go with a very complicated woman. After assuring Pumpkin that no one would ever be able to figure out her true identity, we sat down to talk more about this “situation” she has gotten …

Tendencies toward over-evaluation of relationship issues runs in the family, apparently.  The below is the first contribution from my first little sister, Dani.  It’s part one of a two-part story about a relationship with a million and one parts.  Part one: what’s going on slash what one girl thinks is going on.  Part two – to come Friday – why it’s going on slash what’s …

Other Jesse Rosen sent me a text on Monday afternoon: OJR: Time to write a 20 about couples on their black berries at the same time.  Gross. Translation: You should write a 20-Nothings blog post about couples who play with their blackberries in tandem while on a date. Explanation: There is a guy out there with my same name.  We went to middle and high …

I’ve started encouraging friends to keep hooking up with their exes.  Like when a friend comes to me and says, “ugh it’s such a disaster, and I don’t know what I want, but we just keep hooking up…”  I say, “I think you should just keep doing it then.” It’s a sharp right turn from my previous position that the only way to effectively break …