Love

I expected a New York City-style hail storm (ouch guys) of hate mail in response to my Duke Sex List opinion piece. Soap-boxing of that variety usually leads to some “who do you think you are” comments – which aren’t necessarily unwarranted. Not only were those fewer and further between this time, but I got an unexpected message from the father of a college-aged girl …

A few days ago some gchat conversation jogged some thought in my mind that prompted a theory about the differences between guys and girls. This happens between twenty and five hundred times a day depending on how busy I am at work and whether or not Chris is on gchat. On this particular day he was, and we got into a conversation about what people …

This is one of those I-wish-I-thought-of-that moments. LADY GUNN is a “cool magazine based in New York and LA” (from their website, but that’s really the best way to describe it). They feature fashiony, pop-cultury, music-reviewy things in their pages and on their website. In addition to – apparently – the funniest female-focused lifestyle quiz I’ve ever seen, and I mean un-ironically funny (because one …

I’d be in trouble if I said all but let’s say many-if-not most couples are comprised of two parts: a nice one and a not as nice one. It’s not quite a good cop/bad cop scenario (though some couples are that, which is interesting in and of itself). I’m saying one person in every couple is going to have slightly more edge, slightly more bite, …

As I see and have experienced it, there are three and only three distinct classifications of male – boys, guys, and men. They have no bearing on age (you can be a boy at 45 and a man at 24), don’t follow a specific progression (you can get to man if you never hit boy), and won’t necessarily stick once they’re hit (you could spend …

Carly passed this article along with a “this seemed blog-worthy” and Carly tends to be right when it comes to the blog. We’ve touched on this before – the question as to whether or not “hook-up culture” is damaging to our development – sexual people and people hoping to build lasting relationships. These sociologists explore it purely from an angle of whether or not hooking …

I was watching Sunday’s MAD MEN last night when something struck me. In general that’s either the fact that I can hate and love Don Draper at the same time despite him not being real and my not generally being attracted to men who speak in monotone or how nobody is paying attention to the fact that Sally Draper is on the fast-track to hussy-ville, …

–> Time to come clean about something I think will prove wildly helpful regarding the pursuit of correct life partners. …that or forever confirm that I’m a total nut case. I’m willing to take the risk. There is a universal standard by which I uphold all men who reach the point of wow-I-like-this-guy in my head. Not like – has a solid 401K (I’m not …

After yesterday’s post I received the following e-mail from one “M” – the female half of yesterday’s “Sed” story. Subject line: We don’t play baseball in Scotland, but I still get the metaphor. M had a few things to clarify, a few more to expand upon, and a story about risk-taking in the name of romance that will give you chills. It’s published here with …

–> It wasn’t until my friend – we’ll call him Sed – posed the question relative to his own life-decision that I realized I’ve never tackled the when-do-you-take-the-major-romantic-leap-of-faith? issue. We’ve been through should-I-go-on-a-second-date-with-him-or-not? and should-I-break-up-with-her-or-no? And of course is-this-game-playing-ever-going-to-turn-into-something-real-or-not? But what about do I ask her to move clear across the country for me after we’ve known each other for 6 months? Or, do I …