There will (has?) come a time(s) when you will be faced with whether or not to send a follow-up email to a guy/girl you (thought you) hit it off with, subsequently emailed and have since heard nothing from.
Subject line: Just wanted to check in
Hey _____________,
Really fun meeting you that other night at _________________. Thought I’d be a little brazen and reach out again just to say I had a really great time with you, so let me know if you want to grab another drink sometime. I know you have my number from that night, but just in case I gave it to you wrong or something – I’m 555-2222.
Hope you’re having a great day!
The angry
I’m sure it’s been crazy at work for you, but just wonder if you got my email 1.5 weeks ago and have any interest in the drink we talked about extensively when we met and spent the entire evening together. No worries at all if you’re no longer interested, but could you just drop me a line to let me know so I can confirm in my mind that you’re not an option? You could just say, “Hey, sorry, going to be totally busy over the next few weeks” and I’ll know what that means because everyone knows what that means.
Thanks!
Jessie
Subject line: Hi 🙂
Just checking in to say hi again. Loving the gorgeous weather, right?!
Hope all’s well!
The I’ll teach you a lesson
I get that you’re not interested in hanging out again because you haven’t returned my email in close to two weeks. But my thing is, don’t say, “you’re really great, we should get drinks this weekend” if you a. know for a fact that won’t happen or b. think there’s a chance that won’t happen. If you know for a fact please stop talking to me and walk away. If you think there’s a chance say, “give me your number, maybe I’ll call you sometime.” But to say “we should get drinks this weekend” and then not respond to an email for 2 weeks when I know full well you have an iphone is just weird. Don’t do it.
Thank you.
The CW show character
Subject line: No subject
Super fun getting to know you that night back at Chance’s party. I think I totally dropped you a line afterwards but cannot for the life of me keep things straight these days!! Anyway – drinks! Soon! We’re sooo much fun together, with alcohol.
XO,
The Seinfeld
Subject line: So this is crazy…
So, I get this email the other day from this person I’m helping out with a freelance writing assignment gig – not important – but anyway, she’s all, “per my email blah blah” weeks back” and I’m all “wait – I didn’t get an email from her…” So I call the tech guy who looks at my inbox system thing and figures out I’ve been all jammed up weeks and not getting all these random emails! Then I realize I’d tried to send you an email after we met and though, crap! he probably thinks I’m a total asshole! But see it’s the computer that’s the asshole – haha – so here I am again just saying hi…and the night the other week was fun…and we should get a drink sometime, you know, if you’re interested!
Let me know! Oh – and maybe call me or text me too just in case this computer goes haywire on me again! 555-2222.
The Felicity
Subject line: Thoughts
So I know I sent you that email awhile back seeing if you were interested in getting a drink, but I’ve been thinking about it and I just think now isn’t the best time for that. I mean, if you were planning on us doing that we still could, but I just wanted to reach out and say not to worry about it because things are just crazy for me right now.
So – yeah – let me know what you were thinking. I’d hate to cancel if you’d made, like, a mental plan or something – but just let me know because no worries if you hadn’t yet.
Cool?
The business-style
Subject line: FWD: Hey there
Please see the below email dated 1.5 weeks ago.
Let me know status!
Thanks!
The you-think-this-is-sooooo-smooth
Subject line: King of Leon tickets
Hope you’re doing well! I know things are probably crazy for you, but I just wanted to reach out to let you know that I scored two insane tickets to Kings of Leon this Thursday night. I remember that night we hung you were saying you love them, so I wanted to see if you were interested in going. We can just call that our follow-up drinks – haha.
Let me know!
The moral of the story
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such a great post!!! you nailed me on the passive aggressive… *shrug* oh well!
I am in a coffee shop laughing audibly enough for the barista to ask me what is so funny (I’m the only one in here), so I read her this post and yeah, now she gets it.
fun post. I especially like the character ones.
Ha! My cousin and I are Seinfeld nuts, so I had to read that one to him. Honey, I am the one that teaches a lesson. It goes a little something like this…
Subject Line: Hi (leaves him wondering)
Hey there,
This is Dani. I haven’t heard from you in a while. The last time we talked you said that you wanted to get together the following weekend. Then you disappeared. Not cool. I made up my weekend schedule based on the likelihood of hanging out with you… and not so much as a phone call? I would never waste your time like that. One’s time is valuable, at least MINE is. Good luck in life. I’m sure you’re going through something(s) that kept you from being able to communicate via the internet for 10+ days. I’m sure that you’re prepared to send me an email telling me all about it. Please save it. You could have told me a LONG time ago. Instead, let’s cut our losses. Again, good luck in life fella.
Toodles,
Dani
too tough? lol
note: i reserve this one ONLY for guys that I was giving a “chance” to who then turn around and blow ME off. That reallllly irks me. lol
And girl, I LOVE your blog! You always make me laugh!
I often hear voices in my head when reading your posts, but this time they weren’t the sounds of friends or foes past – they were the characters that you cited in each of your examples. Loved the “Seinfled” and “Felicity.”
llol (literally laughed out loud)
Haahahaha. Love it, Jessie.
I have a whopper of an e-mail I sent to my ex last weekend, if you would like to read/share.
I’m pretty sure I’ve sent SEVERAL “I’ll teach YOU a lesson” emails … let’s be friends!
Up until about a year (err six months?) ago I would do this in text form as the CW character.
I sent an “I’ll teach you a lesson” text a month or so ago. It usually takes this guy hours to text me back. But after my “lesson” text, he responded in quite a hurry with an excuse and reassurance that he enjoyed spending time with me.
However, I haven’t heard from him since then..so I don’t know why he even bothered responding if he knew he wasn’t going to keep contact after that.
The wording in my “lesson” was almost exactly what your sample “lesson” letter presents, which was pretty neat. Maybe we SHOULD be friends!