June 2010

Today – in the spirit of I-am-too-swamped-to-write-three-original-posts-this-week, we re-visit a classic query from the year past. Are people still being stood up? Geanna brought it up first. “I wonder if people are still being stood up…” she said. I had to stop and think about all the dates my friends had been on in the past few years. Then when that proved futile I had …

Let’s get into this based on yesterday’s reading assignment. I’ll try to make my assessment as un-five-paragraph-English-essay as possible. Why the case for courtship? In Kass’s words: “…First, because I believe in marriage, both for its unique opportunities for erotic fulfillment, deep friendship, lasting intimacy and personal growth, and for its indispensable contributions to the well being of children. I do so, second, because good …

When Gil passes along an article, I read it. Even if it’s 17 pages long and on a topic I feel like I’ve covered a hundred times before. As usual – I was incredibly glad I did. Amy Kass’s A Case for Courtship is some heavy stuff. Fascinating, but heavy. Overall, it’s a case for marriage and, more specifically getting to that marriage via a …

–> Katie and I were standing side-by-side at a Soho bar drinking vodka sodas and talking about how much better the moment would be if Party in the USA were playing (well, one of us was…). I can’t remember exactly how he launched into the convo, but a 5’10”ish-grey-v-neck-t’d guy came right up to us, grabbed me around the neck, and yelled, “SO LEMME ASK …

See, that’s what this little site is meant to do… Awesome comment and commentary from the crowd on the “nice guys” debate. I read through, picked apart, and assembled a summary of what we’re all saying on the topic. The headline: yes, nice guys can tend to finish last, but we need to be careful about what we mean by “nice guy” and what specifically …

Every once in awhile I find myself writing a perspective on a topic that I hate myself for having to admit – i.e. the Why Girls Go For Assholes explanation or Sexism: Guys v. Girls on Marriage Thoughts. This blog isn’t about the way I wish things were or the way I’m trying to pretend things are. It’s about the reality of things. And sometimes …

PART ONE: Let’s recap. I asked guys what they do when they really like a girl and want to show her. They said lots of nice things they try extra hard to do sos to show they care. Then I asked girls what they do when they really like a guy. They said lots of things they try extra hard NOT to do sos to …

It appears there’s another 20-something year old out there with some strong opinions on dating. Way stronger than mine, in fact. Jessica Messa’s HuffPo article Why Everything You Believe About Dating is Wrong is an out-with-the-old, in-with-the-reality pitch. People don’t really date anymore, so don’t expect to be dated. People don’t limit themselves to seeing more than one person at a time, so don’t be …