I was having a conversation about these modern dating times the other day (slash every day, but specifically this Tuesday). I said something like, “do you think we’re better off now than we were before?” to which my friend replied, “I don’t know, but I feel like it should be easier than ever to find something. Think of all the options.”
From there we were off and running:
- “Yeah! You used to have to rely on meeting someone in person at some random spot.”
- “Right! Now they’re out in real life and all over the Internet.”
- “And you can pre-screen people so you’re not wasting valuable time.”
- “But you don’t even have to because there are algorithms that do that for you!”
- “You could be looking for dates while you’re working/watching TV/sleeping/going to the bathroom! It’s never been better!”
But then the conversation turned:
- “Hhmm… but why do all my friends currently taking advantage of this easy dating era seem to think it’s the worst?”
- “Yeah… A lot of mine are still single…”
- “And people say that dating behavior is worse than ever.”
- “I hear a lot of, ‘no one has any accountability,’ from friends.”
- “Hhmm…”
So if it’s easier than ever to find people thanks to OKCupid, Match, Tinder, Hinge, eHarmony, JDate and more, why is dating worse than it’s ever been?
Is it that every single generation has their burden? Is dating just terrible no matter the technology, or lack thereof? Did Sally and Bobby (generic names not Mad Men characters) complain to their friends about how terrible it was to try and get a girl’s attention at the soda fountain on Friday afternoons? Or is it that all this convenience in the dating world has made it too convenient to find someone…else, someone better?
- “I wonder if we’re suffering from too much choice.”
- “It could be that people don’t take dating seriously because there’s another, potentially better option one swipe away.”
Jessie Rosen
Jessie Rosen resides physically in LA and mentally in NY. She writes scripts, books, articles, sex stories, branded content and killer e-mails.
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I wasn’t much of a dater. Ever. But, when I was dating, it was pretty miserable. So, I gave up on it. Not in the jaded, angry, resentful, kind of way. I just finally embraced being single and have found that it could be fun and worry-free. If anything, I am less miserable.
But, why do I think dating is miserable these days? Technology. It allows us to not communicate on a personal level, i.e. text, email, instant messenger, Facebook. There’s a level of detachment that results from all of that. You don’t hear the person’s voice, you don’t miss it when it’s gone. Technology also allows us to stay in touch without really staying in touch, so again you don’t feel the same kind of loss when the person is no longer in your life. You can just stalk them on Facebook. Then, technology just gives us the illusion that there’s always something or someone else better out there. You don’t even have to go on dating websites anymore. Just check out Instagram.
Dating should be easier. But it’s not. Because we don’t really “date” anymore. We just shop. Technology allows us to do that.
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Personally I’ve never actually relied on the internet for dating. I’m an old fashion girl I guess or I’ve just been lucky enough to be able to find people in the more traditional way. I seem to have always dated guys from work who I’d been sorta flirting with for a few months until the guy or I made a move to further the relation. I was seeing a guy from work for a year and a half and he decided to end things and it had been 2 months so I had moved on and as I was shopping for a new piece of furniture I met someone in the store. He gave me his number and I decided to call him and I just had a date with him and it was quite fun. But it’s strange because I’ve always gotten to know someone over a long period of time before I had to decide consciously that eventually, if this works out, I’ll have to give in to a kiss and more and that will feel to quick for me. I think dating is something that’s different for everyone. I like to take my time and get to know someone before any deeper connection is established but someone else may prefer getting right into a new relationship head first. Ultimately I can tell you that I find the internet to be impersonal and makes it easy to pretend you are something more (or less) than what you really are and that doesn’t start a relationship right. And that’s probably why it’s hard.
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Haha, but I think that it’s that there isn’t any pressure to meet people in your twenties (or so you think) and people are much more casual about dating…THEN BOOM your 30 and everyone is gonna wish they had tried harder to meet someone. Too easy, too casual, too apathetic, too many choices.
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My name is Sarah am from Texas, am a woman who love and cherish my husband more than any other thing you can imagine on earth continent. My husband was so lovely and caring after 3years of marriage he was seriously ill and the doctor confirm and said he has a kidney infection that he needed a kidney donor, that was how I start searching for a good Samaritan who can help,doctor has given me a periodic hour that he will live just 26hours left, that was how I ask the doctor if I can be of help to my husband that was how he carried out the text,the confirming was successful, I was now having this taught that since 3 years now we got married I have not be able to get pregnant can I be able to get bring again? That was the question I ask the doctor, he never answer his response was did you want to lost your husband? I immediately reply no I can’t afford to loose him. After the operation my husband came back to live and was healthy I was also ok with the instruction given to me by the doctor, after 3months my husband came home with another lady telling me, that is our new wife that will give us kids and take care of us, that was how I was confused and started crying all day, that was how my husband ran away with his new wife cluaralle. Since then I was confuse don’t no what to do that was how I went back to the doctor and tell him everything, he told me that, this is not just an ordinary it must be a spiritual problem that was how he gave me this email (freedomlovespell@hotmail.com) that I should tell her all my problem that she can help that was how i contacted her and I do as instructed. After 3days and I have done what she ask me to do, my husband start searching for me and went back to the doctor, that was how we well settle she also told me not to worry that I will get pregnant, this month making it the fifth Month I contacted her am now 3months pregnant. These great spell cater is a great man, if you are any kind of problem you can contact him here on his email (freedomlovespell@hotmail.com) website address: freedomlovespelltemple.yolasite.com
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