My oldest little sister is getting married one week from last Saturday. I want to tell her 10,000 things so that she’ll have the greatest day of her entire life, but 10,000 feels aggressive, as does the whole “greatest day of your entire life” set up. And yet I do have some wisdom to impart regarding how to spend the thirty days before the big day. Here, in no particular order, is that completely unsolicited advice.
- Celebrate as much as humanly possible. Example: every time you go to dinner tell the waitress you’re getting married. Lie and tell her it’s that weekend. Do whatever it takes to bask in the glory of your pending nuptials because after the wedding you have about a week of people caring enough to give you a free glass of champagne with your appetizers. Also, and (maybe) more importantly – the actual day flies by so fast that it’s nice to treat the entire month like it’s part of the festivities.
- Start the very, very important process of delegating out jobs for the actual wedding day. Come that Saturday morning all you should be thinking about is whether or not you’re wearing enough deodorant and how hard you’re doing to dance. Start turning it all over early and you will be so much calmer in the days leading up to the big day.
- Prepare to embrace the art of letting it go. Little things may start to go wrong around this point, and by “go wrong” I mean cost more money. Decide what you need to make a federal case over and let the rest of it go. You will not remember that $1,500 extra for another wedding shuttle, but you will remember being livid about it the week before your wedding and cramping your own style.
- Sit alone and think about the major emotional moments. I swear I cried so much thinking about my first dance with my dad (aka Dad) that when it actually happened I didn’t have any tears left. It helped me to really envision the things that made me nervous or weepy so I wasn’t surprised by them on the day.
- Try to be really, really kind to your fiance. It’s impossible to survive the month before your wedding without someone asking, “so, how are you two holding up?” and one of you saying, “we’re wishing we eloped.” Do your part to make it a little less hellish and ask him to do the same. If necessary, take all your stress and anger out on your already married older sister because she understands!
- Practice smiling. This is an incredibly serious piece of advice. When I smile without thinking about it my right eye squints shut more than my left, and I end up looking like a super happy pirate. It’s gross. I practiced smiling like a non-alien in the mirror a ton so I would know what it felt like to smile the right way. Do this alone.
- Give yourself full and complete days off from planning. Yes, you could look at your “to do” list again on Thursday even though there are no specific Thursday “to dos” but just don’t. Instead look at really funny videos on YouTube that have nothing to do with weddings whatsoever. I recommend this one of a three week old puppy learning to howl!
- Wash your face every single morning! Every single night!! And every single time you feel remotely sweaty in the face!!! If it works into the budget, get a facial two weeks before the wedding. Tell the aestheticism that you’re getting married in two weeks so they go easy on your skin.
- Do romantic/silly lead-up-to-the-wedding things like go to a bar with great dancing so you can practice your dance moves or take a drive to the place where you met so you can be all cheesy about it. This technically goes under the “celebrate everything” category, but I felt it bore a specific, additional mention. We went to the place where we met and told everyone that’s where we met, and that we were now getting married. We got free bourbon and a really great picture outside the bar taken by the bouncer.
AND FINALLY –
- Try so so hard not to wake up every morning and say, “only XX more days until our wedding!?!” You’ll drive yourself crazy, and you’re already crazy enough because you’re getting married in XX days and you don’t need to say it out loud because you already know the number by heart!
Any advice I’m missing, married people? And any advice you want, little sister/almost bride??