February 2011

I was thinking about Patti’s no-sharing-a-bed-until-you’re-in-a-committed-relationship policy the other day. That’s “Patti” as in Patti Stanger of Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker who famously demands that her “matches” do not engage in any hooking up before committing to a monogamous relationship. Kissing, touching, light-to-heavy petting is fine. But anything more is out, including sleep overs of any kind. Full disclosure – I’m of the belief that if …

So this is interesting. eHarmony – makers of ridiculous commercials and the successful matches that inspire them – has come out with a new study about what makes or breaks a relationship. The results come from questions that service asks during their “Guided Communication process” – online daters as asked to share their relationship “must-haves” and “can’t stands” with their matches. They analyzed what more …

There are white lies, there are lie, lies, and there are lies of omission. I know this because I was one of those little girls who had a little problem with lying. It’s like once I found out you could say things that weren’t true and not get struck by lightening (a thing I didn’t quite understand as it was), there was no stopping me. …

“I’m sure it was just a circumstantial thing,” I told my friend as we hashed out last week’s sleep-over denial story. “You’ll have much more clarity if you guys hang out again.” Famous last words. Long story short, it happened again. Or, rather, it didn’t happen again. Here is the new set of details. Get your over-thinking caps on! My friend invites guy to her …

“I’m not trying to hide you from the Internet. It’s just that my blog isn’t about every detail of my romantic life. I’m a very private person!” “Fine. All I’m trying to say is that I think the people want more R, Jess.” And so, in a spirit of today is Valentine’s Day, here it finally is – the story of how I met R …

I am very sad to report that the “off the record” function on the gchat machine works. The minute you X-out the chat it goes into some Internet black hole, never to be found again. “Isn’t there a way to search and retrieve it?” I asked my friend, “The people at Google must have this figured out.” “I think the whole point is that you …

I heard it three different times in three different ways over the course of a single week. “I’m starting to like him a lot, I know I need to take it slow. You know…self-preservation…” “If he ever texts me back, fine, but I’m not contacting him again. At a certain point it becomes self-preservation time.” “My whole focus with this OKCupid thing is self-preservation.” A …

if it’s this one the answer is no one. eek! A few weeks ago my co-workers and I got involved in a heated debate over the issue of who “owns” the engagement after a failed engagement. It’s worth mentioning that my co-workers are five, mostly-married men. I was championing a very specific position – well positions – relative to who did the breaking up, who …