A few weeks back R and I were discussing the idea of setting up a friend. We met a guy. We know a girl. We think they might like to know each other. To be fair, it was R’s idea, which makes this post even more interesting.

In order to complete the set-up, we needed the assistance of another person – the person who knows the guy. This person would ask if he was interested in being set up and provide me his contact info; I would then complete the connection. This is the step where R lost hope in the plan. Yes, the first step.

• “It’s going to be tough,” he said.
• “Why?” I said.
• “Because guys don’t do that,” he said.
• “Don’t do what? Ask their friends if they want to meet a girl?”
• “Yeah,” he said. “It’s tough.”

We spent the next 20 minutes discussing what, exactly, was so tough about saying, “Hey man want to meet a girl?” But to be fair I giggled a lot as I pretend to be R saying, “hey man, want to meet a girl?”

But wait. Are men not setting men up?! Is half the population not helping people find love?! It is entirely possible that R is wrong; I haven’t polled the other men in my life (hopefully this blog post will take care of that step), but remember, it was R who thought of the set-up in the first place. His brain is set-up oriented. He is a guy who wants guys to find girls (or guys). And yet when asked if he would be able to ask the guy in question what it might take to make a match he said:

• “I don’t know. It’s tough.”

I need to know so much more about the situation. Please report back.

But in the meantime guys-who-don’t-set-guys-up-because-it’s-tough (and that includes my husband), sack up.